The Break Up Survival Guide (Part 2)

The Break Up Survival Guide (Part 2)

Ok, so this is a list of all of the things I keep thanking God for, that I’ve been doing for a while, that just make this whole thing SO MUCH EASIER.

  1. Putting my hope in God. I think this comes with spending time regularly with God, and reading his word.  I’m finding that I still have a joy/excitement/anticipation about the plans God has for me, cause my hope is in Him, and I’m confident that He’ll come through.  As opposed to feeling like M was my hope for the things I want.  I would be that much more devastated.  It’s hard enough to loose a relationship, so if you don’t have to loose your hope with it, that makes a big difference! This is something you can and should do in the moment after a break up, but I put it on this list, cause it makes it so much easier to do, if you’ve been doing it all along.
  2. Having a relationship that was free from impurity. It means there wasn’t any unhealthy attachment, that is that much harder to break.
  3. Guarding my heart well. For me this means not spending excessive amounts of time daydreaming (being anxious) about the future, and all that it could be with M. It’s not that I didn’t think about it, I just tried to not dwell on it, and essentially let myself get overly attached to an idea of what it would look like. See Philippians 4:6-7.

These things kind of all blur together for me, it’s hard to separate one from the other, and they all support the others.  I’ve done these things wrong, and I’ve done them right.  It makes a huge difference.  I also think there are huge payoffs for doing these things throughout a relationship if the relationship continues on into marriage.  Either way, you win.